Sunday, May 4, 2008
SIX MONTHS
It has been six months since Joanne had the stroke and she has made amazing progress. Her most recent success is regaining movement in her "frozen shoulder". She has had four acupuncture sessions which have made a noticeable improvement in the range of movement. Four weeks ago, she could barely raise her arm above her waist. Now she can raise it over her head and swing her arms around in circles. Thank you all for your continued support and prayers. Joanne has a new thing she likes to say all the time, "Praise God". She is so thankful that she is alive and well and improving each day. She thanks Him for every small success. She sees how God has given us EVERYTHING, large and small each and every day. How wonderful it would be if we all could be so thankful for everything we have been given all day, everyday. Praise God!
Thursday, April 10, 2008
I HAVE LOST ALL HOPE
Lost all hope in ever finding a matching pair of socks. Although Joanne is doing most of the household chores, she doesn't do them with the passion she used to. I don't mean to complain, mind you, she has a lot more important things to deal with, like getting her frozen shoulder to stop hurting while trying to keep it limber. Working her hand to get her strength back and make her fingers work again. And she does endless, sometimes mindless word puzzles to work on her speech. She had an allergic reaction to an antibiotic which made her break out in a spotted, itchy rash, all over her body. Just as it was getting under control, it came back with a punch. She is finally feeling better. Please continue to keep us in your prayers. We all are still adjusting to our new lives and it can be quite challenging sometimes.
Wednesday, April 2, 2008
LIFE GOES ON
It has been five months since the stroke and Joanne has been doing well. She still has to work on her fine motor skills in her right hand. It is taking a long time to get her hand and arm to work. She developed a 'frozen shoulder' which apparently is very common after a stroke. It is a very painful condition which limits the movement in her arm, which is makes using her right hand and arm very difficult and slows down the occupational therapy.
Her speech is still improving. Some days are very good and some days are not as good as others. She has a great sense of humor about it most of the time but we do have those moments when she is just plain frustrated and unhappy about it. Overall, she has been very positive and upbeat during all of these trials. She tries to schedule a good cry every two week or so.
We are all adjusting to all of the challenges and we all have good days and not so good days. Friends and family continue to help with chores and errands and we still have been receiving meals on a pretty regular basis. I am so grateful for all the help we have received. I don't know how we would have made it without all of the love and prayers we received.
Her speech is still improving. Some days are very good and some days are not as good as others. She has a great sense of humor about it most of the time but we do have those moments when she is just plain frustrated and unhappy about it. Overall, she has been very positive and upbeat during all of these trials. She tries to schedule a good cry every two week or so.
We are all adjusting to all of the challenges and we all have good days and not so good days. Friends and family continue to help with chores and errands and we still have been receiving meals on a pretty regular basis. I am so grateful for all the help we have received. I don't know how we would have made it without all of the love and prayers we received.
Tuesday, February 12, 2008
TESTING, TESTING, 1, 2, 3.
Joanne had quite the day today. She was scheduled for an MRI of her brain, an MRA of her head and an MRA with injected dye of her head and neck. If you know what it's like to have an MRI, you know it's not too much fun. She was nervous. She did a great job for the MRI witch took a little more than a half an hour. She took a short break, and ended up with a chill and a case of nerves. She was very brave and agreed to jump back in and go for the second part of the scan. This was a bout 15-20 minutes. The technician suggested that we come back tomorrow for the last part of the test which as she put it, is very long...yikes! She said most people can't do so many scans all at one time. I am very proud of Joanne, I don't know if I would be able to have an MRI. It is a little too tight for me. They took some amazing pictures. The technician said she had a beautiful brain, very bright, she could hardly look at it without sunglasses, ha, ha. We will follow up with the neurologist in the near future and I suppose he will let us know how she is healing and that all is well.
Wednesday, February 6, 2008
THIS IS HOW I FEEL
I feel like there is always one more thing to do.
Pray that I will have the endurance to do everything I need to do.
--Paul
Tuesday, January 15, 2008
I MISS MY LIFE
This is what Joanne said to me. Even though she is doing so well, it is still a daily struggle. We gauge how well she is doing, but the starting point is '0'. Before the stroke she was 110. She has regained so much and I thank God for that, but so much was taken away. After all the visitors leave, after the light conversations and small talk, life goes on. Dealing with the day to day needs of a family. Homework, laundry, cleaning up a spilled glass of milk, consoling hurt feelings, redirecting an argument, expressing your feelings of joy or sadness, disappointment or optimism.
Buttering a bagel with one hand, opening a jar or bottle, pulling on a pair of pants, tying your shoe. It is a battle every day.
Buttering a bagel with one hand, opening a jar or bottle, pulling on a pair of pants, tying your shoe. It is a battle every day.
Tuesday, January 1, 2008
HELLO 2008
We say good bye to 2007 and look forward to the new challenges of 2008. Joanne has come so far in such a short time. The past two months however, does seem like an eternity. She had what I am calling a "growth spurt" on Thursday. She was getting more sensation in her hand and it was noticeably stronger and more responsive. In the evening after an OT session, she was pouring milk for dinner, saying, "Hey, look at me!", as she was doing a little dance around the table. She was like a child with a new toy. She kept walking around picking things up. It was very exciting to see. She is rather frustrated at the prospect of not being able to drive for a while. And she is bothered at times with the inability to find the right words. I know she does not want to be defined as a person who had a stoke. It certainly is not who she is, it is just something that happened to her. She is so determined to regain her speech and her strength. Her determination is truly an inspiration. Joanne has been so strong though this and had risen to each challenge with such grace. We have had our share of tears. I am sometimes surprised by the tears, since she has been so strong. I am very proud of her for staying focused and for saying, "I don't like this, but it happened and I need to work until I get well."
I keep thinking of, Romans 8:28 and 8:32, "And we know that God causes all things to work together for good to those who love God, to those who are called according to His purpose.", "He who did not spare His own Son, but delivered Him over for us all, how will He not also with Him freely give us all things?" What good comes from someone having a stroke? What good comes from a family turned upside down? What good comes from a husband thinking that his wife may not live through the next day? Luke 11:11-13, "Now suppose one of you fathers is asked by his son for a fish; he will not give him a snake instead of a fish, will he? Or if he is asked for an egg, he will not give him a scorpion, will he? If you then, being evil, know how to give good gifts to your children, how much more will your heavenly Father give the Holy Spirit to those who ask Him?"
We may never know what ultimate good God has caused by Joanne having a stroke, but I know that He has been present in our home, like a dear friend, laughing with us and crying with us and just being with us. I can say with absolute certainty that I have almost literally felt Him carrying me along. He put people in our life who where there to help us physically, emotionally and spiritually. I would much rather if Joanne had not had a stroke, but she did, and I am so thankful that we have a loving God to rely on. I wouldn't have been able to get through this challenge without His help.
I keep thinking of, Romans 8:28 and 8:32, "And we know that God causes all things to work together for good to those who love God, to those who are called according to His purpose.", "He who did not spare His own Son, but delivered Him over for us all, how will He not also with Him freely give us all things?" What good comes from someone having a stroke? What good comes from a family turned upside down? What good comes from a husband thinking that his wife may not live through the next day? Luke 11:11-13, "Now suppose one of you fathers is asked by his son for a fish; he will not give him a snake instead of a fish, will he? Or if he is asked for an egg, he will not give him a scorpion, will he? If you then, being evil, know how to give good gifts to your children, how much more will your heavenly Father give the Holy Spirit to those who ask Him?"
We may never know what ultimate good God has caused by Joanne having a stroke, but I know that He has been present in our home, like a dear friend, laughing with us and crying with us and just being with us. I can say with absolute certainty that I have almost literally felt Him carrying me along. He put people in our life who where there to help us physically, emotionally and spiritually. I would much rather if Joanne had not had a stroke, but she did, and I am so thankful that we have a loving God to rely on. I wouldn't have been able to get through this challenge without His help.
Wednesday, December 26, 2007
POST CHRISTMAS UPDATE
Well, the past two weeks since the visit with the neurosurgeon has been a very busy time. With me back at work, it hasn't left me much time to keep up with my entries. My entire office has been very supportive. They have made my transition back so much more manageable. I want to thank everyone in my team for stepping up and working so hard to enable me to leave early each night. Being back at work certainly adds another level of challenges to the mix. It has been and will continue to be a big adjustment for all of us.
Joanne continues to work hard and improve every day. She is determined not to let anything slow her down. She was wrapping presents and tying bows just before Christmas. She worked a little more slowly than past years, but she worked very hard to convince her right hand to help with the wrapping. I sorely missed her writing out all the envelopes for our Christmas cards this year, but under her guidance, I was able to type and print them. If I tried to write them, no one would have gotten a card this year. I apologize to anyone reading this who was expecting a card but did not receive one. We had a wonderful Christmas. Quiet time at home in the morning, then a casual dinner a her sister Susan's. I am so happy that we were all together.
Joanne will be continuing her speech and occupational therapy well into the new year. With all of the holiday visits, I think she has done an amazing job talking with everyone. I have noticed that I am filling in a lot of the blacks for her and finishing her sentences when she gets stuck on a word. I am trying to stop that, but I think I am trying to be protective of her. She is a little self conscious when we are around people we don't know very well or if she is talking to a store clerk. When she tells people she had a stroke eight weeks ago, everyone's jaw drops in disbelief. She still mixes up our names, but I think she did that before too. Her choice of words is often funny and not quite right for her meaning, but we can usually figure out what she means.
We received a call early in the morning on Christmas eve. I was rather put off that someone could be so inconsiderate to call us at 8:15am on Christmas eve. It was the social worker from the rehab calling to inform us that she was working out an agreement with our insurance company to cover the cost of the occupational therapy. I didn't mind the early call after all. I have made dozens of phone calls, faxed and emailed and now it seems to be finally working out. And as soon as January 1st comes, I get to start all over again. We are 'fortunate' that this happened at he end of the year. By fortunate, I mean that we used up the 30 visit out patient benefit for the calendar year and start fresh at the beginning of the new year. It still may not cover all of her visits, but I can't image what we would have done if the insurance didn't work out like this. God has provided so abundantly through this entire situation. I don't know how people can do it without Him.
Joanne continues to work hard and improve every day. She is determined not to let anything slow her down. She was wrapping presents and tying bows just before Christmas. She worked a little more slowly than past years, but she worked very hard to convince her right hand to help with the wrapping. I sorely missed her writing out all the envelopes for our Christmas cards this year, but under her guidance, I was able to type and print them. If I tried to write them, no one would have gotten a card this year. I apologize to anyone reading this who was expecting a card but did not receive one. We had a wonderful Christmas. Quiet time at home in the morning, then a casual dinner a her sister Susan's. I am so happy that we were all together.
Joanne will be continuing her speech and occupational therapy well into the new year. With all of the holiday visits, I think she has done an amazing job talking with everyone. I have noticed that I am filling in a lot of the blacks for her and finishing her sentences when she gets stuck on a word. I am trying to stop that, but I think I am trying to be protective of her. She is a little self conscious when we are around people we don't know very well or if she is talking to a store clerk. When she tells people she had a stroke eight weeks ago, everyone's jaw drops in disbelief. She still mixes up our names, but I think she did that before too. Her choice of words is often funny and not quite right for her meaning, but we can usually figure out what she means.
We received a call early in the morning on Christmas eve. I was rather put off that someone could be so inconsiderate to call us at 8:15am on Christmas eve. It was the social worker from the rehab calling to inform us that she was working out an agreement with our insurance company to cover the cost of the occupational therapy. I didn't mind the early call after all. I have made dozens of phone calls, faxed and emailed and now it seems to be finally working out. And as soon as January 1st comes, I get to start all over again. We are 'fortunate' that this happened at he end of the year. By fortunate, I mean that we used up the 30 visit out patient benefit for the calendar year and start fresh at the beginning of the new year. It still may not cover all of her visits, but I can't image what we would have done if the insurance didn't work out like this. God has provided so abundantly through this entire situation. I don't know how people can do it without Him.
Tuesday, December 11, 2007
TUESDAY'S DOCTOR VISIT
We met with Dr Ronald Benitez, the neurosurgeon who preformed the procedure on Joanne after her stroke. He is one of only three surgeons in New Jersey who do this surgery. He was encouraged by her progress. Whenever they perform these surgeries, they assess the tools, potential implants and the patients needs. He said they really pushed the envelope with Joanne. She had the worst dissection of a carotid artery he has ever seen. She is only one of two or three patients who have received these stints to stabilize the artery. They are truly on the cutting edge of this technology.
He also said he was going to call the neurologist from the ER to commend him on his course of treatment. Normally someone who presented with Joanne's symptoms would not be treated, considering the fact that she had improved so dramatically during her ER visit. Typically they would dismiss it as a TIA, or mini-stroke that just corrected itself. We are so fortunate that they decided to admit her and ultimately, to contact Dr. Benitez. As we look back, we can see how God ordered things to happen this way. It truly is a miracle.
We learned that it will most likely be 3-6 months before she can consider driving again. She is not too happy about that. He told us that the next three months to a year, we will see the most improvement is her condition. He felt that she will be in great shape considering how far se has improved in just six weeks.
Joanne will continue to go three times a week for speech and occupational therapy. She is making great progress! She can pick up items with her right hand and is getting more strength in her arm. Her speech is improving day by day, sometimes hour by hour. We do still have some difficult times. While we were in the waiting room today she asked me something about a popsicle stick. She said, "What's that? A popsicle stick? What am I talking about?" God bless her for being able to laugh about these things. I'm not sure that I would be.
He also said he was going to call the neurologist from the ER to commend him on his course of treatment. Normally someone who presented with Joanne's symptoms would not be treated, considering the fact that she had improved so dramatically during her ER visit. Typically they would dismiss it as a TIA, or mini-stroke that just corrected itself. We are so fortunate that they decided to admit her and ultimately, to contact Dr. Benitez. As we look back, we can see how God ordered things to happen this way. It truly is a miracle.
We learned that it will most likely be 3-6 months before she can consider driving again. She is not too happy about that. He told us that the next three months to a year, we will see the most improvement is her condition. He felt that she will be in great shape considering how far se has improved in just six weeks.
Joanne will continue to go three times a week for speech and occupational therapy. She is making great progress! She can pick up items with her right hand and is getting more strength in her arm. Her speech is improving day by day, sometimes hour by hour. We do still have some difficult times. While we were in the waiting room today she asked me something about a popsicle stick. She said, "What's that? A popsicle stick? What am I talking about?" God bless her for being able to laugh about these things. I'm not sure that I would be.
Monday, December 10, 2007
LEAVING NOTES FOR JOANNE
Terry here. I realize since Joanne is home now, many of you have had the opportunity to visit her, to call her and send notes to her home address. But I also wanted to make everyone aware that Joanne now logs onto the blog herself and reads comments. So... in light of this, and the fact that Paul is back to work, and all of us are entering the busy Christmas season, I wanted to encourage everyone to keep the comments coming. I know how much she loves reading your thoughts, prayers and encouraging words. Thank you for continuing to invest your time into our dear sister!!!
Sunday, December 9, 2007
WEEKEND UPDATE
Well, I'm off to work. It is going to be a huge adjustment for both Joanne and I, with me going back to work. Although I plan to leave a little earlier each day, it will definitely add another challenge to the mix. We are all set up with rides to and from therapy. Friends, (the best friends in the entire world), are coming over to do laundry, shop and run errands as needed. So I expect this to be a smooth transition. I guess I am feeling a little protective and I'm not quite ready to leave.
We went for a short shopping trip this weekend and we picked up our Christmas tree as well. We decorated the house and tree. Even though we are so happy that Jo is home and doing so well, the tone was a little solemn. I think we all felt the difference in how much Joanne could and couldn't do. She has always been the executive in chief when it comes to decorating, so we were only running at half steam.
Please continue to lift her up in prayer so that she will not become discouraged or depressed. She has a long battle still ahead and she will need the endurance to get through this. Pray that I will have the endurance as well to be helpful, understanding and patient. Each day offers great hope and great challenges, we need to stay on track and not become discouraged.
We went for a short shopping trip this weekend and we picked up our Christmas tree as well. We decorated the house and tree. Even though we are so happy that Jo is home and doing so well, the tone was a little solemn. I think we all felt the difference in how much Joanne could and couldn't do. She has always been the executive in chief when it comes to decorating, so we were only running at half steam.
Please continue to lift her up in prayer so that she will not become discouraged or depressed. She has a long battle still ahead and she will need the endurance to get through this. Pray that I will have the endurance as well to be helpful, understanding and patient. Each day offers great hope and great challenges, we need to stay on track and not become discouraged.
Thursday, December 6, 2007
MY DRAWINGS by Joanne Budd
As I establish and wince and see a pinch of tan beneath it with color. My draws one are on colors, pink crayon and tan. I cannot stop off me for this smartest allow for me the color. I draw immediately for me senses me arouse.
Joanne is able to speak so well and yet, when she tries to put her thoughts in writing she often comes up with rather poetic prose.
Joanne is able to speak so well and yet, when she tries to put her thoughts in writing she often comes up with rather poetic prose.
Thursday, December 6th
Chloe tells her superior Nadia Yassir that she got a weird military request from Homeland Security. Nadia confirms that this is the assault on Assad. They will find him by using Jack Bauer. Chloe is surprised when Nadia tells her that President Palmer negotiated the release of Jack from a Chinese prison. Nadia refuses to give Chloe any more information, but says that Buchanan is meeting Jack at an airfield.
Now that Joanne is leading a relatively normal life, I thought I needed spice up the entries with a little action, courtesy of 24 season six. Jo is continuing to make strides. Her speech therapist is teaching her to slow down and systematically plan what she wants to say. You can imagine how difficult that is, especially for Joanne who is a go, go, go, type A, get things done quickly, kind of gal. As our life is getting back to normal, Joanne is becoming more involved with everyday chores. She is helping the kids with homework, but they do need to be watchful of her "help", since she still tends to say the wrong words and calls us each by the wrong name. It can be very confusing to Isabel, when Joanne is emphatically saying, "Oliver, OLIVER, why don't you look at me when I talk to you?" The teary answer, "I'm Isabel." We are fortunate that somehow I am able to know what she is trying to say. I suppose 17 years of marriage has paid off. I know that she is starting to feel out of touch and out of control of some things. I have begun doing the Christmas shopping which she usually does the lion's share. She teased me yesterday when I said I finished shopping for the kids, she said, "That's good. You never shop before December 24."
Please continue to pray that Joanne will not become discouraged. She is very bothered by the fact that her hand isn't working and that she comes out with crazy words. Pray that I will remain patient when trying to understand her when she really isn't making sense and I am distracted by other things I need to take care of. And Pray that the children will not see her in any lesser way as their mother and as an authority over them. The fact that she mixes up her words, often makes us laugh, but I see that it can also lessen her ability to be authoritative with the kids. As always, thank you so much for your continued support of our family during this crazy journey.
Now that Joanne is leading a relatively normal life, I thought I needed spice up the entries with a little action, courtesy of 24 season six. Jo is continuing to make strides. Her speech therapist is teaching her to slow down and systematically plan what she wants to say. You can imagine how difficult that is, especially for Joanne who is a go, go, go, type A, get things done quickly, kind of gal. As our life is getting back to normal, Joanne is becoming more involved with everyday chores. She is helping the kids with homework, but they do need to be watchful of her "help", since she still tends to say the wrong words and calls us each by the wrong name. It can be very confusing to Isabel, when Joanne is emphatically saying, "Oliver, OLIVER, why don't you look at me when I talk to you?" The teary answer, "I'm Isabel." We are fortunate that somehow I am able to know what she is trying to say. I suppose 17 years of marriage has paid off. I know that she is starting to feel out of touch and out of control of some things. I have begun doing the Christmas shopping which she usually does the lion's share. She teased me yesterday when I said I finished shopping for the kids, she said, "That's good. You never shop before December 24."
Please continue to pray that Joanne will not become discouraged. She is very bothered by the fact that her hand isn't working and that she comes out with crazy words. Pray that I will remain patient when trying to understand her when she really isn't making sense and I am distracted by other things I need to take care of. And Pray that the children will not see her in any lesser way as their mother and as an authority over them. The fact that she mixes up her words, often makes us laugh, but I see that it can also lessen her ability to be authoritative with the kids. As always, thank you so much for your continued support of our family during this crazy journey.
Tuesday, December 4, 2007
Tuesday, December 4th
"I praise you because you are my favorite." I'm your favorite? "No, I praise you because you are my favorite with the children." This was our conversation on the way to therapy. I still don't know what she really meant, since we both gave up shortly after that and moved onto something else. Although Joanne is doing so well and improving every day, as we start to get into a 'normal' routine, it can sometimes be difficult to communicate in a completely normal way. I am finding that my own patience is being challenged now. I am accustomed to Joanne being ten paces in front and checking off the third item on the to do list, before I have even processed the list myself. I am finding that I have to stop what I am doing and focus on what she is trying to say. I guess it's God working on MY need to slow down and not be so task driven now.
This week will be my last full week home before returning to work. I am using the time to finalize all the therapy sessions for the upcoming weeks, confirming rides to and from and arranging for someone to be with Joanne during the day. She doesn't really need anyone there to help, but I think it is good for her not to be completely alone during the day. I am also
using this week to take care of all those annoying extra task. I broke a tooth a couple of weeks ago and have been holding off on having it fixed until we were settled at home. The dog needs to go to the vet and I need to do few things around the house. I had such grand plans for all the things I was going to do once Joanne was home...I haven't started a single one. But, there is always later... tomorrow... next week.
It has been nice having visitors. We do enjoy opening our home to guests. I have enjoyed seeing Joanne sitting with a cup of tea talking to friends. As you all know, she is always so busy even at home, that she rarely would sit long enough to have a talk over tea. I do have one small request regarding the wonderful meals we are receiving, and that is, please don't bring so much. We can't eat as much as is being made. Our freezer is full and I don't want to waste the food. And at the risk of sounding ungrateful, please no more spaghetti and ziti. We can't possibly eat all of the huge pans you have all so thoughtfully made for us. But, thank you, thank you for being so generous and so loving to our family during this time. I am still amazed at the out pouring of love we continue to receive. I think I mentioned this before, with all the things everyone is doing for us, all the praying for us, all the encouraging words and talk about the blog, Isabel said, "It's like we are famous or something." But I told her we are not famous... just loved. Keep praying for us because it is what is keeping us going. Prayer. Does a body good.
This week will be my last full week home before returning to work. I am using the time to finalize all the therapy sessions for the upcoming weeks, confirming rides to and from and arranging for someone to be with Joanne during the day. She doesn't really need anyone there to help, but I think it is good for her not to be completely alone during the day. I am also
using this week to take care of all those annoying extra task. I broke a tooth a couple of weeks ago and have been holding off on having it fixed until we were settled at home. The dog needs to go to the vet and I need to do few things around the house. I had such grand plans for all the things I was going to do once Joanne was home...I haven't started a single one. But, there is always later... tomorrow... next week.
It has been nice having visitors. We do enjoy opening our home to guests. I have enjoyed seeing Joanne sitting with a cup of tea talking to friends. As you all know, she is always so busy even at home, that she rarely would sit long enough to have a talk over tea. I do have one small request regarding the wonderful meals we are receiving, and that is, please don't bring so much. We can't eat as much as is being made. Our freezer is full and I don't want to waste the food. And at the risk of sounding ungrateful, please no more spaghetti and ziti. We can't possibly eat all of the huge pans you have all so thoughtfully made for us. But, thank you, thank you for being so generous and so loving to our family during this time. I am still amazed at the out pouring of love we continue to receive. I think I mentioned this before, with all the things everyone is doing for us, all the praying for us, all the encouraging words and talk about the blog, Isabel said, "It's like we are famous or something." But I told her we are not famous... just loved. Keep praying for us because it is what is keeping us going. Prayer. Does a body good.
Monday, December 3, 2007
Monday, December 3rd
Hello everyone. Terry here. Just a quick note about the meal calendar. Some time ago I revised the instructions for signing up to make a meal, however, there is still on-going confusion. In the event you did not see my note, I'd like to restate it here. The calendar was created for viewing purposes only. If you attempt to add your name to a day, only you will see it. In order to secure your date, and allow everyone else to view your name on the calendar, you will need to call one of the 3 contacts listed under the "Make a Meal" section. Only the 3 of us have the capability to schedule. There have been a few occasions where the Budd's received multiple meals because individuals thought they signed themselves onto the calendar. I apologize for the confusion.
Regardless of all of this... the Budd's are loving the meals! Thank you for your on-going expression of love... through food!!!
~Terry
Regardless of all of this... the Budd's are loving the meals! Thank you for your on-going expression of love... through food!!!
~Terry
Sunday, December 2, 2007
Sunday, December 2nd
It's amazing how the simple things become so significant. Tonight, after her shower, Isabel came downstairs and proudly announced, "Mommy blow dried my hair all by herself." Joanne was able to hold the blow dryer in her right hand. For the rest of us, this is no big deal, but for Joanne, this is huge. Now, Izzy's hair wasn't really all that dry, but the fact that Jo was able to do it at all was amazing. When we all sat down on the couch after this, Joanne proudly stated, "I am proud of the new dress.", which translates to, "I am so happy that I was able to dry Isabel's hair." Aside from the fact that Joanne keeps calling us all by the wrong names, her speech is coming along a little each day.
Saturday, December 1, 2007
Saturday, December 1st
Our first full week home has been filled with a few new challenges and an enormous amount of progress. During speech on Friday, Joanne had the therapist laughing at her sentences. "We do not do coffee brewing in the bathroom.", "The bathtub is like a large sink.", "The paintbrush had a lot of sage green paint.", and my favorite, "A spider, so lonely, turns its web." She continues to make us laugh with her word play. A few of the exercises she was working on was to list colors, fruit, vegetables, tools, etc. She doesn't just say, red, blue, green, she says, "plum red, carillon blue, sage green". The therapist keeps commenting on the fact that she consistently uses these descriptive words. No wonder she is having some trouble speaking, she is searching for the right adjective to express herself, classic Joanne. All three kids slept over the Grattagliano's, so we went to dinner together after an afternoon speech session. I think the children are going to look back at this time and think, "We had so much fun when mommy had stroke." Thank you to all our dear friends who have to willingly taken such good care of the children. The Boch's, the Diquattro's, the Hastings', the Hutzel's, the White's and more. I don't know how we would have gotten through this and continue to get through, without all your help and support. While Jo was in the hospital and rehab, I would be handed a list at the beginning of each week which told me who was taking the kids to school, who picked them up from school, who was doing homework with them and what time they would be coming home for dinner.
Joanne is beginning to have more control of her right hand. She is able to open and close her hand and has quite a good grip. The thumb is the last hold out, but seeing her progress, I am certain that is not too far behind. I will be taking one more week off before returning to work. I will still need to take a couple of random days off and leave a little earlier than usual for the next few weeks. I am so thankful that my office has been so supportive, understanding and compassionate about our situation. As hard as all of this has been, we have been blessed in so many ways by so many people. I have said several times that we can so clearly see God using this for His glory, but I wish he didn't choose my wife to do it. But...He knows best!
It's real.
Joanne is beginning to have more control of her right hand. She is able to open and close her hand and has quite a good grip. The thumb is the last hold out, but seeing her progress, I am certain that is not too far behind. I will be taking one more week off before returning to work. I will still need to take a couple of random days off and leave a little earlier than usual for the next few weeks. I am so thankful that my office has been so supportive, understanding and compassionate about our situation. As hard as all of this has been, we have been blessed in so many ways by so many people. I have said several times that we can so clearly see God using this for His glory, but I wish he didn't choose my wife to do it. But...He knows best!
It's real.
Thursday, November 29, 2007
Thursday, November 29th
Poor Joanne. She has a handful of phrases that she gets stuck on all the time. As she is talking, she will say, "It's real", "I noticed" and mixes up he and she, which makes for some very funny conversations. The kids and I need to be sure we don't jest too much about this. Sometimes we can laugh about it, but if she is trying to express something more important, she gets angry if we joke about it. Her speech therapist has banned her from using,'cool', 'groovy' and 'thing', when she is working on her sentence writing project. She was trying to get away with sentences such as: The pencil is a cool thing.... The table was groovy. As she would say this, she would be looking up at the therapist out of the corner of her eye in a mischievous way. She knows it's not right, but is playfully trying to get away with it. We walked through the entire Garden State mall Wednesday after therapy. She was intimidated at first, and I think a little self conscious about her hand and limited speech. She was feeling pressure to start Christmas shopping, but for the most part we just window shopped. It was a challenge for me to walk by her side. In the past she would be ten paces in front of me, but now she was ten behind. I had a mission to accomplish... We will get through this mall! But Joanne was more interested in strolling and browsing. We walked for almost three hours. She was exhausted. We got home and she crashed on the couch for an hour till the kids came home from school. As usual, she jumps right in and tries to help.
As always, thank you all so much for everything you continue to do for us. It's real!
As always, thank you all so much for everything you continue to do for us. It's real!
Tuesday, November 27, 2007
Tuesday, November 27th
I apologize if I am ranting on this entry. I am a little fried today...
This is harder than I thought it would be. It's great having Jo home, but I think it was easier when she was in rehab and all we needed to do was push the nurse button when she needed something. Doing homework with the kids and helping Joanne with her speech therapy assignments. Today both Sam and Oliver where home with coughs and sore throats. Joanne had one too so we were off to the doctor with her this afternoon. Joanne's speech homework was a page of pictures which she needed to identify and write a simple sentence containing the word. Words such as fork, pencil, table and cat are proving to be a great challenge to put into a sentence. She cried with frustration at how hard it was to do this and yet she was able to speak relatively clearly to the doctor today. I am struggling to find the balance of taking care of things around the house and stopping to listen to figure out what Joanne wants to say. Trying to schedule therapy sessions and get insurance approval, I have spent hours on the phone with insurance only to go around full circle back to where I started. We did receive some good news about her speech therapy. The insurance company agreed to pay for ten visits even though the rehab is not in their network. That will get us through till the end of the year, when we get to start over with the insurance paper chase. Hopefully I will be able to get approval for the OT as well and get off the phone for a little while. I am getting tired of talking and saying the same story over and over.
~Paul
This is harder than I thought it would be. It's great having Jo home, but I think it was easier when she was in rehab and all we needed to do was push the nurse button when she needed something. Doing homework with the kids and helping Joanne with her speech therapy assignments. Today both Sam and Oliver where home with coughs and sore throats. Joanne had one too so we were off to the doctor with her this afternoon. Joanne's speech homework was a page of pictures which she needed to identify and write a simple sentence containing the word. Words such as fork, pencil, table and cat are proving to be a great challenge to put into a sentence. She cried with frustration at how hard it was to do this and yet she was able to speak relatively clearly to the doctor today. I am struggling to find the balance of taking care of things around the house and stopping to listen to figure out what Joanne wants to say. Trying to schedule therapy sessions and get insurance approval, I have spent hours on the phone with insurance only to go around full circle back to where I started. We did receive some good news about her speech therapy. The insurance company agreed to pay for ten visits even though the rehab is not in their network. That will get us through till the end of the year, when we get to start over with the insurance paper chase. Hopefully I will be able to get approval for the OT as well and get off the phone for a little while. I am getting tired of talking and saying the same story over and over.
~Paul
Monday, November 26, 2007
Monday, November 26th
Joanne is continuing to improve. She had her first outpatient sessions today, which were very productive. She is working very hard to get the strength back in her right arm and is working even harder to make her hand work. They keep telling us it just takes time, but it can be hard to wait and it is still very frustrating for her. Her speech is improving as well, but is still a big hurtle. The kids are trying their best to understand what she says, but there are a lot of confused looks in the house. I think it must be like having a foreign exchange student, except we don't speak their language. I have to file an appeal to our health insurance to cover the therapy. The rehab is not in network and at the moment is not covered. I just want to be sure she gets the treatment she needs, so if I need to jump through a few hoops, then so be it.
~Paul
~Paul
Saturday, November 24, 2007
Saturday, November 24th
We certainly have a lot to be thankful for this Thanksgiving. Joanne came home Wednesday afternoon where she was greeted by a 'Welcome Home Mommy' sign. Lots of hugs and love pasted around. Thanksgiving day was spent at Susan and Greg's. The cousins played together as usual. We sat together and shared a delicious Thanksgiving meal. It was unbelievable to think that two weeks ago, we weren't sure if Joanne was going to survive and there we were eating dinner together as if nothing had happened. A full day out was exhausting, but I think it was good to be out. The kids and I are trying our best to understand everything Joanne says. Her speech is continuing to improve, but it is still a challenge for her to speak her mind. Her right hand is still not cooperating yet. She is doing exercises to strengthen her arm and hand. She'll be going three times a week for out patient speech and OT. Please continue to pray for complete healing of Joanne's speech and hand. Pray that the children and I won't become frustrated by our inability to understand what Joanne is saying. And pray that I will be able to care for Joanne, the kids, house, dog and myself without going completely insane. Thank you all for your continued assistance with meals, yard work, laundry, cleaning and your financial support. As Joanne keeps saying, "It's real","It's crazy" and "Unbelievable".
~Paul
~Paul
Tuesday, November 20, 2007
Tuesday, November 20th
Written last night by Paul:
Joanne realized today that she won't be able to drive for a while and that really hit her hard. She questioned both her OT and PT therapists. They both were encouraging, but no one really knows how long it will be until she can drive and that wasn't answer she wanted to hear. She was shuttled back to Overlook for a follow up CAT scan. She was a little uneasy on the ride over. I can't blame her. She was strapped in a wheelchair, which was then strapped to the floor of the transport van. The driver was nice enough, but since it was her first time out since the stroke, I think she was disoriented, especially with the snow. She became frightened just before the scan, but a quick prayer and some distracting small talk got her through. She became upset with me when I was explaining to the driver that she had had a massive stroke. I was bragging a little about how well she was doing, but she didn't like me saying it that way. I will need to be more sensitive to that in the future.
Her speech therapy is improving. She is identifying things she could not identify last week. She is speaking in more complete thoughts. It's odd how she can't identify a fork, knife and spoon correctly, yet she can name the artist, (French, Spanish, Dutch, etc.), of painting she has studied in art history. We are preparing for her departure on Wednesday and trying to find outpatient rehab which is closer to home and will offer the best therapy. She will need to focus on speech and OT, which is building upper body strength and developing the typical skills for daily living, showering,getting dressed, preparing a meal, (just for her, not the family) and so on. She is a little nervous about it, but I am certain that once she is home she will improve even more. Thank you all for your cards and gifts.
Joanne realized today that she won't be able to drive for a while and that really hit her hard. She questioned both her OT and PT therapists. They both were encouraging, but no one really knows how long it will be until she can drive and that wasn't answer she wanted to hear. She was shuttled back to Overlook for a follow up CAT scan. She was a little uneasy on the ride over. I can't blame her. She was strapped in a wheelchair, which was then strapped to the floor of the transport van. The driver was nice enough, but since it was her first time out since the stroke, I think she was disoriented, especially with the snow. She became frightened just before the scan, but a quick prayer and some distracting small talk got her through. She became upset with me when I was explaining to the driver that she had had a massive stroke. I was bragging a little about how well she was doing, but she didn't like me saying it that way. I will need to be more sensitive to that in the future.
Her speech therapy is improving. She is identifying things she could not identify last week. She is speaking in more complete thoughts. It's odd how she can't identify a fork, knife and spoon correctly, yet she can name the artist, (French, Spanish, Dutch, etc.), of painting she has studied in art history. We are preparing for her departure on Wednesday and trying to find outpatient rehab which is closer to home and will offer the best therapy. She will need to focus on speech and OT, which is building upper body strength and developing the typical skills for daily living, showering,getting dressed, preparing a meal, (just for her, not the family) and so on. She is a little nervous about it, but I am certain that once she is home she will improve even more. Thank you all for your cards and gifts.
Monday, November 19, 2007
Monday, November 19th
A note from Paul:
It's been a busy weekend. Jo had back to back therapy Saturday morning, which pooped her out for the rest of the day. Sunday was filled with visitors - which I think was great. We had the kids in for a visit and again they didn't want to leave. She was tired by the end of the night, but I think it was like a day long therapy session. The Tanis family and Sundquists blessed us with an evening of songs and hymns which was the perfect end to the day. Joanne can get her point across, but has a hard time choosing the right words. We were naming fruit from a fruit basket, I held up an orange and she said, "It's an orange." I asked her what color it was and she said, "green?" It's crazy. She'll often get stuck on the same word and can't say anything else. She keeps dismissing it with a laugh and smile though. Everyone who visits her tells her how great she looks, which she does. But I don't recommend the stroke diet, it has a few unwanted side effects. Her right side continues to get stronger. She is starting to get a little grip in her right hand and a little wrist control. Her right arm still needs some work, but it's improving. I think the area which needs the most improvement will be her speech. She will be checking out of Hotel Rehab on Wednesday around 10am and goes straight to speech and OT. We need to speak to the docs to determine how much she will have as an out patient. Please keep the cards and prayers coming. They both have an amazing healing property. I know I need the prayers, because I am really tired and the only way I am getting through this is by being upheld by your prayers. I spend the day going through all the therapy with her and she is often more focused than I am. It seems so small for me to say "thank you" to everyone for all you are doing for us, but just like Jo, I can't find the right words. So for now I'll just say her favorite words: "I believe" and "unbelievable".
It's been a busy weekend. Jo had back to back therapy Saturday morning, which pooped her out for the rest of the day. Sunday was filled with visitors - which I think was great. We had the kids in for a visit and again they didn't want to leave. She was tired by the end of the night, but I think it was like a day long therapy session. The Tanis family and Sundquists blessed us with an evening of songs and hymns which was the perfect end to the day. Joanne can get her point across, but has a hard time choosing the right words. We were naming fruit from a fruit basket, I held up an orange and she said, "It's an orange." I asked her what color it was and she said, "green?" It's crazy. She'll often get stuck on the same word and can't say anything else. She keeps dismissing it with a laugh and smile though. Everyone who visits her tells her how great she looks, which she does. But I don't recommend the stroke diet, it has a few unwanted side effects. Her right side continues to get stronger. She is starting to get a little grip in her right hand and a little wrist control. Her right arm still needs some work, but it's improving. I think the area which needs the most improvement will be her speech. She will be checking out of Hotel Rehab on Wednesday around 10am and goes straight to speech and OT. We need to speak to the docs to determine how much she will have as an out patient. Please keep the cards and prayers coming. They both have an amazing healing property. I know I need the prayers, because I am really tired and the only way I am getting through this is by being upheld by your prayers. I spend the day going through all the therapy with her and she is often more focused than I am. It seems so small for me to say "thank you" to everyone for all you are doing for us, but just like Jo, I can't find the right words. So for now I'll just say her favorite words: "I believe" and "unbelievable".
Friday, November 16, 2007
Friday, November 16th
Written last night by Paul:
Joanne will be discharged from rehab on Wednesday the 21st! One day before Thanksgiving. We sure have a lot to be thankful for! When she was asked what she eats for Thanksgiving, she said, "fired chicken...no...fried chicken...", she took a pencil and wrote 'turkey', looked at the word and confidently said, "fried chicken!" We all laughed. Thankfully, even when the words won't come out, or the same wrong word comes back over and over, she still laughs. I met her at her PT session this morning where the therapists were teaming up trying to come up with something to really challenge her. She beat them every time. She still leans to the right when she walks and I see a lot of body work being done on the right side of our car once she is back driving, but she is determined to get it done and do it right. On our way back to her room, her roommate was being wheeled down the hall and she said, "Oh, here is my angel." Apparently, the nurse didn't come in time for something and Joanne got up to help her. Keep in mind that she still does not have any use of her right hand and somewhat limited use of her arm. She leans to the right and says the color of a banana is blue, and yet, she can still get herself out of bed and help someone else. Unbelievable.
I brought the kids to see her tonight for the first time since she was in the hospital. It was a little awkward at first, but it quickly changed into a joy-filled time that none of us wanted to end. We were batting a balloon around in the gym and laughing at how she couldn't get out the right words. Her sister Suzan had written out some questions for Jo to practice saying, and we all laughed till we cried as she asked in a comical sing song manner, "So tell me how are your friends? Are you working on any projects? What books are you reading in school? Are you doing all your homework?" It was hilarious.
She will continue to have occupational and speech therapy as an outpatient about three times a week for the next few weeks. I can't wait to have her back home. The drive to Morristown and back each day is getting very tiresome. Please keep praying, because God is answering our prayers each day, several times a day. That is the only thing keeping us going...as well as all the great meals we are receiving, the washing of our clothes (thank you Joanna), the house cleaning, raking leaves, doing homework with the kids each day (thank you Loretta), the maintenance of this blog (thank you Terry), and the hundreds of other things being done to help us. Thank you again for your continued support during this wild ride.
Joanne will be discharged from rehab on Wednesday the 21st! One day before Thanksgiving. We sure have a lot to be thankful for! When she was asked what she eats for Thanksgiving, she said, "fired chicken...no...fried chicken...", she took a pencil and wrote 'turkey', looked at the word and confidently said, "fried chicken!" We all laughed. Thankfully, even when the words won't come out, or the same wrong word comes back over and over, she still laughs. I met her at her PT session this morning where the therapists were teaming up trying to come up with something to really challenge her. She beat them every time. She still leans to the right when she walks and I see a lot of body work being done on the right side of our car once she is back driving, but she is determined to get it done and do it right. On our way back to her room, her roommate was being wheeled down the hall and she said, "Oh, here is my angel." Apparently, the nurse didn't come in time for something and Joanne got up to help her. Keep in mind that she still does not have any use of her right hand and somewhat limited use of her arm. She leans to the right and says the color of a banana is blue, and yet, she can still get herself out of bed and help someone else. Unbelievable.
I brought the kids to see her tonight for the first time since she was in the hospital. It was a little awkward at first, but it quickly changed into a joy-filled time that none of us wanted to end. We were batting a balloon around in the gym and laughing at how she couldn't get out the right words. Her sister Suzan had written out some questions for Jo to practice saying, and we all laughed till we cried as she asked in a comical sing song manner, "So tell me how are your friends? Are you working on any projects? What books are you reading in school? Are you doing all your homework?" It was hilarious.
She will continue to have occupational and speech therapy as an outpatient about three times a week for the next few weeks. I can't wait to have her back home. The drive to Morristown and back each day is getting very tiresome. Please keep praying, because God is answering our prayers each day, several times a day. That is the only thing keeping us going...as well as all the great meals we are receiving, the washing of our clothes (thank you Joanna), the house cleaning, raking leaves, doing homework with the kids each day (thank you Loretta), the maintenance of this blog (thank you Terry), and the hundreds of other things being done to help us. Thank you again for your continued support during this wild ride.
Wednesday, November 14, 2007
Calling All Kids!!!
In light of the fact that Joanne is not up to having any young visitors just yet, and knowing how much she adores children, I thought it would be a great idea to encourage her art and drama students, as well as all the children near and far who know and love her so much, to contribute to the blog journal. Whether they know her as "Auntie Jo" or "Miss Joanne" or "Mrs. Budd", she loves them all! Even if your child has already made her a special handmade card, please encourage them to type her a note as well. If your child is too young to type, maybe they could tell you what they'd like to say. Paul delivers a daily print-out of blog comments to Joanne each morning. I know she will be so encouraged to read notes from some of her favorite people in the whole world.
http://joannebuddjournal.blogspot.com/
http://joannebuddjournal.blogspot.com/
Wednesday, November 14th
Written last night by Paul:
We had a great day today. It was a rough start with both boys home sick,
but once I got to RIM, it radically improved. Joanne preformed
exceptionally during physical therapy. Her strength and balance are
returning quickly. Occupational therapy was not great but okay. Speech
went well and we left there with some techniques to help translate her
thoughts into the right words. It was just before dinner when she was
resting and I was sitting stroking her right hand. She started to wake and
lifted her arm and while she did that she gripped my hand. We both looked
at each other in shock and I asked her to do it again. She did it several
more times and said something like, "finally, it's coming back". I drove
there this morning in tears, stressed and tired. I drove home in tears,
happy and energized.
I was listening to this on the way in today. I played it twice and cried
even harder the second time:
Praise You in This Storm -Casting Crowns
words by Mark Hall/music by Mark Hall and Bernie Herms
I was sure by now, God, that You would have reached down
and wiped our tears away,
stepped in and saved the day.
But once again, I say amen
and it's still raining
as the thunder rolls
I barely hear You whisper through the rain,
"I'm with you"
and as Your mercy falls
I raise my hands and praise
the God who gives and takes away.
And I'll praise you in this storm
and I will lift my hands
for You are who You are
no matter where I am
and every tear I've cried
You hold in your hand
You never left my side
and though my heart is torn
I will praise You in this storm
I remember when I stumbled in the wind
You heard my cry to You
and raised me up again
my strength is almost gone how can I carry on
if I can't find You
and as the thunder rolls
I barely hear You whisper through the rain
"I'm with you"
and as Your mercy falls
I raise my hands and praise
the God who gives and takes away
I lift my eyes onto the hills
where does my help come from?
My help comes from the Lord, the maker of heaven and earth
I lift my eyes onto the hills
where does my help come from?
My help comes from the Lord, the maker of heaven and earth
And I'll praise you in this storm
and I will lift my hands
for You are who You are
no matter where I am
and every tear I've cried
You hold in your hand
You never left my side
and though my heart is torn
I will praise You in this storm
We had a great day today. It was a rough start with both boys home sick,
but once I got to RIM, it radically improved. Joanne preformed
exceptionally during physical therapy. Her strength and balance are
returning quickly. Occupational therapy was not great but okay. Speech
went well and we left there with some techniques to help translate her
thoughts into the right words. It was just before dinner when she was
resting and I was sitting stroking her right hand. She started to wake and
lifted her arm and while she did that she gripped my hand. We both looked
at each other in shock and I asked her to do it again. She did it several
more times and said something like, "finally, it's coming back". I drove
there this morning in tears, stressed and tired. I drove home in tears,
happy and energized.
I was listening to this on the way in today. I played it twice and cried
even harder the second time:
Praise You in This Storm -Casting Crowns
words by Mark Hall/music by Mark Hall and Bernie Herms
I was sure by now, God, that You would have reached down
and wiped our tears away,
stepped in and saved the day.
But once again, I say amen
and it's still raining
as the thunder rolls
I barely hear You whisper through the rain,
"I'm with you"
and as Your mercy falls
I raise my hands and praise
the God who gives and takes away.
And I'll praise you in this storm
and I will lift my hands
for You are who You are
no matter where I am
and every tear I've cried
You hold in your hand
You never left my side
and though my heart is torn
I will praise You in this storm
I remember when I stumbled in the wind
You heard my cry to You
and raised me up again
my strength is almost gone how can I carry on
if I can't find You
and as the thunder rolls
I barely hear You whisper through the rain
"I'm with you"
and as Your mercy falls
I raise my hands and praise
the God who gives and takes away
I lift my eyes onto the hills
where does my help come from?
My help comes from the Lord, the maker of heaven and earth
I lift my eyes onto the hills
where does my help come from?
My help comes from the Lord, the maker of heaven and earth
And I'll praise you in this storm
and I will lift my hands
for You are who You are
no matter where I am
and every tear I've cried
You hold in your hand
You never left my side
and though my heart is torn
I will praise You in this storm
Tuesday, November 13, 2007
Tuesday, November 13th
A note from Paul:
Thank you all for your unceasing prayers and support! Shuttling the kids, doing our laundry, making us meals each day. I am so grateful for you all! In fact, last night's dinner was shared with Joanne's sister Susan and her family. Susan has been at Joanne's side from the beginning. Honestly, I am not sure how her family has managed for the past week without her home. Last night's dinner was a huge blessing for them. Jo had a full day Monday. Speech therapy, occupational therapy where they hooked up her arm to electrodes to stimulate that stubborn right hand and wrist, and physical therapy where she is regaining her balance and strengthening her arms and legs. She is struggling to express herself. She can read well and comprehend, but she is still unable to articulate her thoughts. She did share that she was afraid and did not want to do this. She said, "I want to be well!" They have stopped the antibiotics for her bronchitis, since she has developed a rash all over her stomach and back, and it seems to have caused her tonsils to swell and become painful. Fun, fun, fun. Both Sam and Oliver are home sick today with sore throats. Sam saw the doc Monday and has antibiotics and Oliver is going today. I am starting to feel the burn, so please pray for endurance for me and that Joanne will not be fearful. Her spirits are mostly up, but each day is a struggle.
A note from Terry:
I just wanted to add... Yesterday I watched as Joanne did physical therapy and she is working so hard. Through her smiles though, my heart broke as I saw that look in her eye that said, "I don't want to be here." Please pray with me, today and beyond, that she will not be discouraged or afraid. Pray a protection around her heart and mind as she faces this daily routine of therapy, which is not only physically draining, but I would imagine even more so on a mental and emotional level. All this coupled with the fear of what's ahead and the fact that she cannot be at home with Paul and the kids right now. In spite of all this though, my heart was so touched to see and hear her singing along to the song, "You Are My Hiding Place." The words were so fitting... "You always fill my heart with songs of deliverance whenever I am afraid. I will trust in You. I will trust in You. Let the weak say, 'I am strong in the strength of the Lord.'" That's my prayer for her today. I'm typing out scriptures and personalizing them so she can pray them as she reads them. I came across one in particular that I'd like to share with you. The Living Bible translation reads, "I am going to keep on being glad, for I know that as you pray for me, and as the Holy Spirit helps me, this is all going to turn out for my good." Philippians 1:19. I loved how someone typed their prayer as a comment on the blog journal. What a great idea. I encourage others to do the same. By faith Joanne will FEEL our prayers, but what an encouragement for her to also READ our prayers on her behalf. Also, as Paul said, this is starting to catch up with the family and those who are lending help as well. Let's pray that same prayer for Paul and the kids, and everyone involved. Healing to their bodies. Protection over their hearts and minds. Strength in continuing to provide all the help that is needed. Blessings to each of you.
Thank you all for your unceasing prayers and support! Shuttling the kids, doing our laundry, making us meals each day. I am so grateful for you all! In fact, last night's dinner was shared with Joanne's sister Susan and her family. Susan has been at Joanne's side from the beginning. Honestly, I am not sure how her family has managed for the past week without her home. Last night's dinner was a huge blessing for them. Jo had a full day Monday. Speech therapy, occupational therapy where they hooked up her arm to electrodes to stimulate that stubborn right hand and wrist, and physical therapy where she is regaining her balance and strengthening her arms and legs. She is struggling to express herself. She can read well and comprehend, but she is still unable to articulate her thoughts. She did share that she was afraid and did not want to do this. She said, "I want to be well!" They have stopped the antibiotics for her bronchitis, since she has developed a rash all over her stomach and back, and it seems to have caused her tonsils to swell and become painful. Fun, fun, fun. Both Sam and Oliver are home sick today with sore throats. Sam saw the doc Monday and has antibiotics and Oliver is going today. I am starting to feel the burn, so please pray for endurance for me and that Joanne will not be fearful. Her spirits are mostly up, but each day is a struggle.
A note from Terry:
I just wanted to add... Yesterday I watched as Joanne did physical therapy and she is working so hard. Through her smiles though, my heart broke as I saw that look in her eye that said, "I don't want to be here." Please pray with me, today and beyond, that she will not be discouraged or afraid. Pray a protection around her heart and mind as she faces this daily routine of therapy, which is not only physically draining, but I would imagine even more so on a mental and emotional level. All this coupled with the fear of what's ahead and the fact that she cannot be at home with Paul and the kids right now. In spite of all this though, my heart was so touched to see and hear her singing along to the song, "You Are My Hiding Place." The words were so fitting... "You always fill my heart with songs of deliverance whenever I am afraid. I will trust in You. I will trust in You. Let the weak say, 'I am strong in the strength of the Lord.'" That's my prayer for her today. I'm typing out scriptures and personalizing them so she can pray them as she reads them. I came across one in particular that I'd like to share with you. The Living Bible translation reads, "I am going to keep on being glad, for I know that as you pray for me, and as the Holy Spirit helps me, this is all going to turn out for my good." Philippians 1:19. I loved how someone typed their prayer as a comment on the blog journal. What a great idea. I encourage others to do the same. By faith Joanne will FEEL our prayers, but what an encouragement for her to also READ our prayers on her behalf. Also, as Paul said, this is starting to catch up with the family and those who are lending help as well. Let's pray that same prayer for Paul and the kids, and everyone involved. Healing to their bodies. Protection over their hearts and minds. Strength in continuing to provide all the help that is needed. Blessings to each of you.
Sunday, November 11, 2007
Sunday, November 11th
Joanne is doing great! She is settled into her new location. Today would be a good day for visitors, because she will not begin the agressive therapy schedule until tomorrow. Visiting hours are from 8a to 8p M-F. Beginning tomorrow though, visitors are asked to wait until 3p to visit, due to her therapy schedule that ends around 3p. Please don't bring children since she is not ready for that just yet.
She is at the Rehabilitation Institute of Morristown, also known as RIM. The address is 95 Mt. Kemble Avenue, Morristown, NJ 07960. She is in room 302, bed 1. Parking is across the street.
Directions from North:
287S
Exit 33 "Harter Road"
Left at the exit
Go about 1 mile
Right at light "202/Mt. Kemble Ave"
Rehab is approximately 1 mile on left
Parking across the street from Rehab
(Paul here...We had a pretty good day today. We did have a lot of tears too. After an hour of speech therapy this morning, Jo was very discouraged. The therapist and I thought she did well, but it showed how much she will need to work. Her comprehension is good, but she can not find the words to express herself. She gets stuck on "What I want to know is..." and she can't get anything else out. She also had a physical therapy session. She walked around the gym and learned how to walk up and down a few steps. We had to cut it short when she became dizzy and had to lay down for a while. She was doing so well, the therapist didn't realize how serious her stroke had been. She is very upset about the lack of movement in her right hand, but I am confident that will return soon. I had to cut our visit a little short today so I could gather the kids from friend's houses. Once home, the kids and I were just settling in with a video when the phone rang...it was Joanne calling to talk to me. Although she couldn't say much in words, it touched my heart so deeply to hear her voice on the phone. It brought me to tears. She is working so hard!
Please continue to pray that her spirits will remain high. Now that we are past the critical health issues, we will need to tackle her physical and emotional issues. Monday will be her first full day of speech, physical and occupational therapy. Pray that she will have the strength and determination to get through it. Thank you so much for your thoughts, prayers, kind words and support. I am unable to express my gratitude. As Joanne likes to say, "unbelievable, unbelievable".)
She is at the Rehabilitation Institute of Morristown, also known as RIM. The address is 95 Mt. Kemble Avenue, Morristown, NJ 07960. She is in room 302, bed 1. Parking is across the street.
Directions from North:
287S
Exit 33 "Harter Road"
Left at the exit
Go about 1 mile
Right at light "202/Mt. Kemble Ave"
Rehab is approximately 1 mile on left
Parking across the street from Rehab
(Paul here...We had a pretty good day today. We did have a lot of tears too. After an hour of speech therapy this morning, Jo was very discouraged. The therapist and I thought she did well, but it showed how much she will need to work. Her comprehension is good, but she can not find the words to express herself. She gets stuck on "What I want to know is..." and she can't get anything else out. She also had a physical therapy session. She walked around the gym and learned how to walk up and down a few steps. We had to cut it short when she became dizzy and had to lay down for a while. She was doing so well, the therapist didn't realize how serious her stroke had been. She is very upset about the lack of movement in her right hand, but I am confident that will return soon. I had to cut our visit a little short today so I could gather the kids from friend's houses. Once home, the kids and I were just settling in with a video when the phone rang...it was Joanne calling to talk to me. Although she couldn't say much in words, it touched my heart so deeply to hear her voice on the phone. It brought me to tears. She is working so hard!
Please continue to pray that her spirits will remain high. Now that we are past the critical health issues, we will need to tackle her physical and emotional issues. Monday will be her first full day of speech, physical and occupational therapy. Pray that she will have the strength and determination to get through it. Thank you so much for your thoughts, prayers, kind words and support. I am unable to express my gratitude. As Joanne likes to say, "unbelievable, unbelievable".)
Saturday, November 10, 2007
Please Keep the Notes and Cards Coming!
Though her speech is limited, it does seems that Joanne is able to read and comprehend very well. In light of this, please keep the cards coming! Until we find out if she can receive mail at the rehab facility, you may send notes to the Budd home at: 61 Orchard Street, Bloomfield, NJ 07003. Or, if you'd like her to receive it even sooner (and you don't mind making your note public - which has been extremely therapeutic to all of us by the way), you may write to her via the online journal at: http://joannebuddjournal.blogspot.com/
Hopefully the rehab will have internet capabilites. If not, Paul will be printing comments daily from the online journal, as well as taking cards to her that arrive at the house.
Chances are, if you know Joanne, you've received more than a few notes of love and encouragement from her over the years. It's our turn to shower her with words of love and encouragement to edify her soul. Let's make the mailman think Christmas came early this year! :)
Hopefully the rehab will have internet capabilites. If not, Paul will be printing comments daily from the online journal, as well as taking cards to her that arrive at the house.
Chances are, if you know Joanne, you've received more than a few notes of love and encouragement from her over the years. It's our turn to shower her with words of love and encouragement to edify her soul. Let's make the mailman think Christmas came early this year! :)
Friday, November 9, 2007
Friday, November 9th
Isn't she gorgeous!!!!! Look at that full smile! Taken less than an hour ago. Still at Overlook, only because it was getting late and they wanted Jo to rest. Transfer to rehab in morning. I spoke to Joanne on the phone earlier tonight. She said... that's right, she SAID... "Sam... Oliver... Isabel... I love you!" I have 2 of the Buddlings here overnight. I relayed the message. They can't wait to see Mom!!! Joanne sends her love and thanks to everyone!
(Paul here. I wanted to add that her favorite words are "yes", "tank you" and "where". We all laugh so hard when she is trying to ask something and all that keeps coming out is, "where, where, where, where, where?" Thank you ALL for your thoughts and prayers. You are what is up holding Jo and I up. God can't help but keep His eyes on us since so many people are shouting out to Him on our behalf. I was thinking of some story, or quote from a movie that was something like, "And the headline in the paper read, 'God is dead'." But I am here to tell you that the headline in the paper I am holding reads, "GOD IS REAL!." I have never doubted that and I am so thankful that He has chosen Joanne to prove it once again. I am thankful for the sacrifice of His only Son which allows us to boldly stand before Him and ask for whatever we need. I LOVE YOU ALL!)
(Paul here. I wanted to add that her favorite words are "yes", "tank you" and "where". We all laugh so hard when she is trying to ask something and all that keeps coming out is, "where, where, where, where, where?" Thank you ALL for your thoughts and prayers. You are what is up holding Jo and I up. God can't help but keep His eyes on us since so many people are shouting out to Him on our behalf. I was thinking of some story, or quote from a movie that was something like, "And the headline in the paper read, 'God is dead'." But I am here to tell you that the headline in the paper I am holding reads, "GOD IS REAL!." I have never doubted that and I am so thankful that He has chosen Joanne to prove it once again. I am thankful for the sacrifice of His only Son which allows us to boldly stand before Him and ask for whatever we need. I LOVE YOU ALL!)
Joanne is Being Transferred
Before you head out to visit Joanne at Overlook... WAIT! Just got word that she will be transferred to a rehab facility in Morristown - today. This is great news! WAY ahead of schedule. Please stay tuned for information on visiting policies/hours and the location of the facility.
Thank you!!!
Thank you!!!
New Visiting Hours
Joanne had a great day of rest yesterday. Paul and Joanne's sister, Sue, enjoyed quality time with her and as you hopefully read on the blog, Joanne made great strides in recovery yesterday. Because she is out of ICU now, Paul asked that we open it up to visitors again. Visiting hours are 11-1:30 and 3-8. She is in room 501, just down the hall from ICU. If you need to get directions online, the address is 99 Beauvior Avenue, Summit, NJ 07902.
Knowing how many people love Joanne, this posting could create a traffic jam on all major highways leading to Overlook hospital. :) Thank you in advance for your continued sensitivity to the number of guests, as well as allowing Paul and Joanne's relatives ample time with her.
Knowing how many people love Joanne, this posting could create a traffic jam on all major highways leading to Overlook hospital. :) Thank you in advance for your continued sensitivity to the number of guests, as well as allowing Paul and Joanne's relatives ample time with her.
Thursday, November 8, 2007
Thursday, November 8th #2
Can you handle some more good news??? If you're not sitting down, I suggest you do. Less than 1 hour ago Joanne SPOKE! Joanna Hutzel and I were by her bedside (no longer in ICU by the way)... and in the midst of a conversation regarding Joanna's daughter's search for the right college, Joanne spoke! We were trying to guess what she was thinking, after she had spelled something by pointing to letters on a piece of paper. We knew she was asking about a college in New York, but Joanna did not know what she was referring to. This went on for some time. Joanne had cleared her throat and attempted to mouth the words. Her determination in doing this was amazing to watch. She slowly said, "owwwww". And her eyes opened wide and she cupped her hand over her mouth in disbelief. Then with great excitement she said, "ohhhhhhh"... "ohhhh"..."yes, yes, yes, oh yes". Joanna and I were screaming, and crying, and laughing, and praising God! With a look of great victory and relief Joanne smiled the biggest smile... on BOTH sides of her face by the way! You go girl!!!!! And you go God!!!!
After our celebration, she was so eager to keep speaking. You could tell she so desperately wanted to express everything on her mind. Joanna said to her, "I bet you have a million words in your head and you're trying to pick the right one." Joanne gave a sweet and exhausted nod "yes". I reminded her that the doctor had told us on Saturday after surgery that her breathing tube would be removed on Wednesday... yesterday. It came out less than 12 hours after surgery. I told her the doctor also said that she would be so heavily sedated that we really wouldn't be able to gage anything until Thursday... today. I said, "Joanne, you WALKED and SPOKE today! Don't get discouraged thinking this is taking too long because you are breaking records here!" She tilted her head and smiled as if to say, "Yeah... I suppose."
God is amazing! There are no words to express just how amazing. I believe God was rejoicing with us in the hospital room tonight. His presence was so evident and so real. It was as if He was singing over Joanne with songs of deliverance. Thank you Lord for showing Yourself strong on Joanne's behalf. What an exciting day You gave us.
Today felt like Christmas! I wonder what tomorrow will hold? Stay tuned for more... and keep the prayers coming. God's listening.
After our celebration, she was so eager to keep speaking. You could tell she so desperately wanted to express everything on her mind. Joanna said to her, "I bet you have a million words in your head and you're trying to pick the right one." Joanne gave a sweet and exhausted nod "yes". I reminded her that the doctor had told us on Saturday after surgery that her breathing tube would be removed on Wednesday... yesterday. It came out less than 12 hours after surgery. I told her the doctor also said that she would be so heavily sedated that we really wouldn't be able to gage anything until Thursday... today. I said, "Joanne, you WALKED and SPOKE today! Don't get discouraged thinking this is taking too long because you are breaking records here!" She tilted her head and smiled as if to say, "Yeah... I suppose."
God is amazing! There are no words to express just how amazing. I believe God was rejoicing with us in the hospital room tonight. His presence was so evident and so real. It was as if He was singing over Joanne with songs of deliverance. Thank you Lord for showing Yourself strong on Joanne's behalf. What an exciting day You gave us.
Today felt like Christmas! I wonder what tomorrow will hold? Stay tuned for more... and keep the prayers coming. God's listening.
Oh... one more thing... I heard Joanne typed "Mr. Budd is foxy" earlier today on the laptop. :)
Thursday, November 8th
Are you ready for this?
Joanne WALKED to the waiting room with the assistance of one person just a little while ago!!! We serve an awesome God!!! (For those of you reading this who are in close proximity to the Budd children, please attempt to allow their Daddy to tell them this great news later this evening.)
Joanne's sister, Sue, said Joanne also typed the words "righteous" and "almighty" on the laptop this morning! Guess we know where Joanne's mind is. :)
The only reason she is still in ICU is due to a lack of bed openings on the regular neuro wing. Because she is doing so well they discussed releasing her directly to a rehab facility, but to be safe they want to keep her 2 more days.
On a side note, when the Doc gave us the post-surgery prognosis Saturday night, his words were something like, "I don't expect a Lazarus situation". Through many tears we all gathered in a circle and prayed just after that difficult news. Loretta DiQuattro prayed specifically against the doctor's words with something like this... "We all heard what the doctor said about Lazarus, but we believe you can do this God!" Look who's walkin' now!!!! I think God's showing off a bit today. :)
Please keep the prayers coming.... for continued strides that baffle the doctors minds. Pray that MANY come to know our amazing God through this!!! All praise be to the one and only God who can heal ~ Jesus Christ!!!
Joanne WALKED to the waiting room with the assistance of one person just a little while ago!!! We serve an awesome God!!! (For those of you reading this who are in close proximity to the Budd children, please attempt to allow their Daddy to tell them this great news later this evening.)
Joanne's sister, Sue, said Joanne also typed the words "righteous" and "almighty" on the laptop this morning! Guess we know where Joanne's mind is. :)
The only reason she is still in ICU is due to a lack of bed openings on the regular neuro wing. Because she is doing so well they discussed releasing her directly to a rehab facility, but to be safe they want to keep her 2 more days.
On a side note, when the Doc gave us the post-surgery prognosis Saturday night, his words were something like, "I don't expect a Lazarus situation". Through many tears we all gathered in a circle and prayed just after that difficult news. Loretta DiQuattro prayed specifically against the doctor's words with something like this... "We all heard what the doctor said about Lazarus, but we believe you can do this God!" Look who's walkin' now!!!! I think God's showing off a bit today. :)
Please keep the prayers coming.... for continued strides that baffle the doctors minds. Pray that MANY come to know our amazing God through this!!! All praise be to the one and only God who can heal ~ Jesus Christ!!!
Wednesday, November 7, 2007
Wednesday, November 7th
Joanne had a good day today. After some much-needed sleep, she woke alert and eager to communicate. Her sister Sue brought in a laptop to see if Joanne could type words. Joanne typed the following:
thank you (Joanne's response to Sue for bringing the laptop)
I love do chocolate
Ice cream I (Though it took about 15 minutes to find the 'm' in cream, these were Joanne's thoughts just after eating an entire cup of chocolate ice cream. Swallowing was only a little difficult for her. She tried so hard to get her right hand to pick up the spoon, but it just wouldn't move.)
chocolate drink
Chocolate drink was
drink was warmth (Paul thinks that this really meant, "the chocolate ice cream will make me feel good".)
Joanne and Paul had a great 'dinner' together tonight with her nurse Vecee as their chaperone.
Please continue to pray OFTEN for the Budd family. Also that Joanne would experience peace as she continues on this journey of recovery. I can only imagine how frustrated she must feel in her attempts to communicate and process information that was once so clear and simple to her. Pray that she stays determined and does not become discouraged. Blessings to each of you for your faithful prayers.
thank you (Joanne's response to Sue for bringing the laptop)
I love do chocolate
Ice cream I (Though it took about 15 minutes to find the 'm' in cream, these were Joanne's thoughts just after eating an entire cup of chocolate ice cream. Swallowing was only a little difficult for her. She tried so hard to get her right hand to pick up the spoon, but it just wouldn't move.)
chocolate drink
Chocolate drink was
drink was warmth (Paul thinks that this really meant, "the chocolate ice cream will make me feel good".)
Joanne and Paul had a great 'dinner' together tonight with her nurse Vecee as their chaperone.
Please continue to pray OFTEN for the Budd family. Also that Joanne would experience peace as she continues on this journey of recovery. I can only imagine how frustrated she must feel in her attempts to communicate and process information that was once so clear and simple to her. Pray that she stays determined and does not become discouraged. Blessings to each of you for your faithful prayers.
Addendum to Visiting Hours
Due to MANY visitors on a regular basis, the family has asked that you refrain from visiting Joanne during this critical healing period. Paul and the immediate family also have to abide by the same limited visiting hours. So if other visitors are there, often the family has to forgo their time with Joanne. We realize how difficult this is. We all love Joanne so much, and we want her to know we are there for her. Please do continue to send cards, photos, and add to the online journal at:
http://joannebuddjournal.blogspot.com/
As soon as Joanne is able to receive a more steady flow of visitors, a notification will be posted on this page. Thank you.
http://joannebuddjournal.blogspot.com/
As soon as Joanne is able to receive a more steady flow of visitors, a notification will be posted on this page. Thank you.
Write a Note to Joanne and Paul
Click here for more information: http://joannebuddjournal.blogspot.com/
Tuesday, November 6, 2007
Ways To Pray for the Budd Family
FOR JOANNE:
- Complete physical healing of the brain, blood vessels and brain cells to return to perfect balance with no permanent side effects.
- That all brain cells that were affected by the lack of oxygen during the stroke will regain full function.
- Complete return of all gross and fine motor skills on her right side with no residual weakness.
- Complete return of all speech patterns, receptive as well as expressive.
- Healing for the bronchitis she had before she entered the hospital.
- Healing for the asthma she had been suffering prior to this episode.
- Perfect peace that passes all understanding, that will place a guard of protection over her mind and her thoughts.
- That she would have no fear of the future but be full of faith that God’s promises are "yes and amen" in Christ Jesus. That He has a bright future and a hope for her.
- That God’s healing virtue will flow through her body from the top of her head to the tips of her toes. That each blood vessel, muscle, organ, joint and ligament, each cell and fiber of her being will be flooded with the healing power of Jesus, the Great Physician!
FOR PAUL:
- That his faith would be strong and unwavering.
- That he would stay physically well during this season and not get run down by caring for Joanne and the children.
- That his mind and thoughts would be fixed on God who will keep him in perfect peace.
- That he would not be fearful of the future but be confident in the promises of God.
- That his place of employment would be understanding, flexible and financially accommodating and generous during this entire season.
- That he would have increased wisdom and discernment concerning all aspects of Joanne’s care.
- That he would not be overwhelmed with the details of her care, but be able to rely on others who are willing to help.
FOR THE CHILDREN:
- That they would not be fearful but have a peace that all their needs will be met.
- That they will be full of faith for their mother’s full and complete recovery and be hopeful for the future.
- That they will be able to concentrate on their studies and maintain their grades at school.
- That they will be physically healthy with no colds, flu or infections this entire winter.
- That they will not hide their emotions but be able to share their thoughts, concerns and fears openly with Paul and close friends.
Monday, November 5, 2007
What happened?
Saturday morning Joanne woke with a numb arm and was unable to move the right side of her face. We went to the ER. While there her condition improved considerably and the CAT scan showed nothing. She was admitted and just before moving to her room, she had another more serious stoke. I agreed to an aggressive treatment called TPA, which is a super blood thinning clot-busting drug which has only 20% chance of working, X% she would stay the same and X% she will hemorrhage and die. Another CAT scan showed a large blockage which ruled out the TPA option. She was move to Overlook hospital which is one of the nation's leading numerological centers where they performed a procedure which goes directly into the area and removes the blockage. This didn't have great odds either but after speaking to the surgeon I decided this was the only option.
What happened was her carotid artery had dissected, which means the inner lining separated from the outer lining and created a pocket. This pocket filled with blood, cut off circulation and formed the clot which became the blockage. They had to first repair the artery before removing the blockage. The procedure took six hours.
She has made great strides over the past two days. She is still unable to move her right arm, she can't speak, the right side of her face is not moving and only occasionally does she do something on command. She is mostly sleeping due to the swelling in her brain from the procedure, which is normal. We are unsure how much she understands since her responses are so limited. She did nod when asked if she knew where she was and frowned when asked if she was in a nice hotel. Hopefully she will be out of ICU within the next day or two.
Joanna Hutzel has mobilized our friends and family and are taking turns bringing my kids to and from school, doing homework with them and bringing us meals. They gave me a schedule of who has my kids, when and where and what time they will be home and who is bringing dinner. I am in a bit of a fog and thankful that I have them doing this for me. I am overwhelmed.
Joanne did have a good half an hour tonight, just before I left to be at home with the kids. She was awake and responsive and seemed to understand what I was saying. I left tonight feeling a sense of hope. She still has a very long way to go before we know how much damage has or has not been done. For now I am happy when she gives a smile, even if it is just half a smile.
I will try to let you know of more improvements as they come. Keep us in your thoughts and prayers.
~written by Paul on Tuesday, November 6th
What happened was her carotid artery had dissected, which means the inner lining separated from the outer lining and created a pocket. This pocket filled with blood, cut off circulation and formed the clot which became the blockage. They had to first repair the artery before removing the blockage. The procedure took six hours.
She has made great strides over the past two days. She is still unable to move her right arm, she can't speak, the right side of her face is not moving and only occasionally does she do something on command. She is mostly sleeping due to the swelling in her brain from the procedure, which is normal. We are unsure how much she understands since her responses are so limited. She did nod when asked if she knew where she was and frowned when asked if she was in a nice hotel. Hopefully she will be out of ICU within the next day or two.
Joanna Hutzel has mobilized our friends and family and are taking turns bringing my kids to and from school, doing homework with them and bringing us meals. They gave me a schedule of who has my kids, when and where and what time they will be home and who is bringing dinner. I am in a bit of a fog and thankful that I have them doing this for me. I am overwhelmed.
Joanne did have a good half an hour tonight, just before I left to be at home with the kids. She was awake and responsive and seemed to understand what I was saying. I left tonight feeling a sense of hope. She still has a very long way to go before we know how much damage has or has not been done. For now I am happy when she gives a smile, even if it is just half a smile.
I will try to let you know of more improvements as they come. Keep us in your thoughts and prayers.
~written by Paul on Tuesday, November 6th
Other Ways to Help the Budd Family
HOW YOU CAN HELP PHYSICALLY:
- Make a meal ~ For more information click on the heading title to the right of this page titled "Make a Meal for the Budd Family".
- Childcare ~ contact Loretta DiQuattro 973-751-1770 or Loretta White 973-338-3835
- Housecleaning, food shopping, making school lunches and doing laundry ~ all taken care of
- Household projects (such as leaf raking) ~ contact Joanna Hutzel 973-616-2965
- Send cards, flowers, gifts, or balloons to the hospital or the Budd home:
Overlook Hospital
99 Beauvior Avenue
Summit, NJ 07902
The Budd Family
61 Orchard Street
Bloomfield, NJ 07003
- Contribute writings to a blog designed for the Budd's and about the Budd's, for everyone to view and be encouraged by. Click link for more information: http://joannebuddjournal.blogspot.com/
HOW YOU CAN HELP FINANCIALLY:
- Gift cards to Shop-Rite, A&P or Rite Aid Pharmacy
- Cash donations for medical bills not covered by insurance, co-pays, prescriptions, travel expense, and gas... and to compensate for Joanne’s loss of income. (Christmas is right around the corner!) This will be ongoing throughout her rehabilitation period (the Doc says up to 2 years).
- Gift cards/cash for Christmas gifts for the kids.
- For those who would like to treat the Budd's to dinner, without actually making the meal, you may contribute funds so they can order out from local restaurants. We will supply them with as many menus as we can, so they can order meals to be delivered to their doorstep - especially on the weekends when meals are not being supplied and their schedules will be less predictable due to visiting Joanne. Please make checks payable to Paul Budd, with "dinner" written in the memo. Their mailing address is listed above.
HOW YOU CAN HELP EMOTIONALLY:
- Be positive and full of faith with every conversation you have with Paul, and every time you visit with Joanne.
- Be mindful of your words, especially around children. They have amazing hearing skills and might casually tell the Budd children what they've overheard.
- Fill yourself with scripture, songs and encouragement before you visit and be prepared to lend support every time you are with the Budd family.
- If you need support and encouragement about this for yourself or your family please contact your Pastor, pastoral staff, a close friend or a family member.
- Please do not voice your own fears, concerns and worries at any time to Paul. Chances are, he has already thought of them many times over.
Visiting Hours
Due to MANY visitors on a regular basis, the family has asked that you refrain from visiting Joanne during this critical healing period. Paul and the immediate family also have to abide by the same limited visiting hours. So if other visitors are there, often the family has to forgo their time with Joanne. We realize how difficult this is. We all love Joanne so much, and we want her to know we are there for her. Please do continue to send cards, photos, and add to the online journal at:
http://joannebuddjournal.blogspot.com/
As soon as Joanne is able to receive a more steady flow of visitors, a notification will be posted on this page. Thank you.
http://joannebuddjournal.blogspot.com/
As soon as Joanne is able to receive a more steady flow of visitors, a notification will be posted on this page. Thank you.
Make a Meal for the Budd Family
If you'd like to make a meal, please first view the on-line calendar in order to find a date that is available. YOU WILL ONLY BE ABLE TO VIEW THE CALENDAR. TO SCHEDULE A DATE, PLEASE CALL ONE OF THE THREE CONTACTS LISTED BELOW. To view the calendar, click here: 
. Click on the "month" tab to view the entire calendar.
CALENDAR TROUBLE-SHOOTING:
. Click on the "month" tab to view the entire calendar.CALENDAR TROUBLE-SHOOTING:
- If you are asked to first create a Google account in order to view the calendar, it is FREE and only requires creating a user name and password.
- If you cannot (or wish not to) access the calendar, please feel free to call one of the contacts listed below and they will be happy to communicate available dates to you over the phone.
- If the text entered into the days on the calendar appears off-center, click a different tab, then click on the "month" tab once again.
In order to secure a date, please call one of the three contacts listed below. These ladies have scheduling capabilities to secure your date.
Terry Boch ~ 973-515-1132 (home), 973-975-2259 (cell)
Loretta DiQuattro ~ 973-751-1770 (home), 862-220-1770 (cell)
Eva Perednia ~ 908-928-0146 (home), 908-251-4185 (cell)
A FEW NOTES REGARDING MEALS:
- Meals are being scheduled from Monday - Thursday only.
- Please deliver them in disposable containers so Paul won't have to keep track of what needs to be returned.
- Paul will most likely not be able to visit with people who are dropping off food. He will either be in transit from visiting Joanne or seeing his children for the first time that evening. Thank you in advance for being respectful of their time together.
- Please drop-off the food between 6 and 6:30 p.m. If Paul is not home, please leave the meal in the cooler on the Budd's back porch.
- For Trinity Christian School families, feel free to take the meal to the school at 3:05 p.m. in order to send it home with whomever is providing transportation for the Budd children on that particular day. No need to find out who is driving ahead of time... just find a Budd child at the end of school to locate the driver.
- If you have problems with drop-off, please do not call their home. Instead, please call one of the three contacts listed above.
- In order to prevent the Budd's from receiving three lasagnas in a row, if you know what you'll be making, please let one of the contacts know so they can enter it onto the calendar. To see what others are making, while viewing the on-line calendar, instead of viewing it under the "month" tab, click the "agenda" tab.
- For those who would like to treat the Budd's to dinner, without actually making the meal, you may contribute funds so they can order out from local restaurants. We will supply them with as many menus as we can, so they can order meals to be delivered to their doorstep - especially on the weekends when meals are not being supplied and their schedules will be less predictable due to visiting Joanne. Please make checks payable to Paul Budd, with "dinner" written in the memo. Their mailing address is: 61 Orchard Street, Bloomfield, NJ 07003.
MEALS THE BUDD CHILDREN REALLY LIKE:
- Roasted chicken and red potatoes (Boston Market or the premade roaster chickens at grocery stores)
- Ground turkey tacos (easy on the spice)
- Spaghetti and meatballs
- Pizza
- Chicken Parm
- Ziti - light on the cheese
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